It's different for different people. I know many people end up having to somehow internally confront and process things that happened to them that they had previously deferred.
I don't really think a queue is the right mental model. If you suffer trauma and choose not to feel, but indeed have memory, you must continue to be just as committed to choosing not to feel for as long as you remember. Failing that, you will eventually have emotions about the trauma at some point. I don't think people are very good at keeping those types of defenses in place for years upon years.
I don't really think a queue is the right mental model. If you suffer trauma and choose not to feel, but indeed have memory, you must continue to be just as committed to choosing not to feel for as long as you remember. Failing that, you will eventually have emotions about the trauma at some point. I don't think people are very good at keeping those types of defenses in place for years upon years.