Somewhat tangential query for people who know something about psychiatry:
My standard way of dealing with shit is to repress it. If I get angry, sad, etc. the first thing I do is squash the emotion (anger is generally the biggest problem but the easiest to squish). If circumstances may cause that negative emotion to reoccur, I take reasonable action to prevent it from doing so whenever possible (It's hard to bring your grandma back to life unfortunately), but only after going smoosh and possibly sleeping on it. Some people say you should vent your emotions, but if I do that I just feel worse.
Here (finally) is the question: Do the scary consequences of repressed memories that keep popping up in movies and TV actually exist? If something horrifyingly traumatic happens to me and I just repress it and move on, am I setting myself up for trouble down the road? I ask this because there's no doubting a bad thing happened to Justine but, were I in her shoes, I'd have repressed that shit right then and there. I wouldn't have done nothing, but squish would be my definite step #1.
It's different for different people. I know many people end up having to somehow internally confront and process things that happened to them that they had previously deferred.
I don't really think a queue is the right mental model. If you suffer trauma and choose not to feel, but indeed have memory, you must continue to be just as committed to choosing not to feel for as long as you remember. Failing that, you will eventually have emotions about the trauma at some point. I don't think people are very good at keeping those types of defenses in place for years upon years.
Yes, repressed emotions and trauma will manifest in some way for many, many people. For some people it can manifest physically, via stress, psychosomatic illness, etc. For others it may be depression or anxiety.
My standard way of dealing with shit is to repress it. If I get angry, sad, etc. the first thing I do is squash the emotion (anger is generally the biggest problem but the easiest to squish). If circumstances may cause that negative emotion to reoccur, I take reasonable action to prevent it from doing so whenever possible (It's hard to bring your grandma back to life unfortunately), but only after going smoosh and possibly sleeping on it. Some people say you should vent your emotions, but if I do that I just feel worse.
Here (finally) is the question: Do the scary consequences of repressed memories that keep popping up in movies and TV actually exist? If something horrifyingly traumatic happens to me and I just repress it and move on, am I setting myself up for trouble down the road? I ask this because there's no doubting a bad thing happened to Justine but, were I in her shoes, I'd have repressed that shit right then and there. I wouldn't have done nothing, but squish would be my definite step #1.