I read the article. He does sound like an arsehole, but you know what, it's probably because he is one. Many people are arseholes, they just don't tell you about it. You don't find out about their true nature until after the contract was signed, at Christmas after five years of marriage or when you notice their phone has applications on it they are using to cheat on their partner with. I prefer honest, abrupt arseholes. You can choose whether or not you want to associate with them or form a relationship with them. Most people have some minor failing or another, wouldn't you prefer to know what it is so you can act accordingly?

I'll be honest with you, I have a handful of close friends and a couple of hundred acquaintances who will answer my calls if I ask them to come out for coffee. I really don't care much about what others think of me. I wouldn't say I am an arsehole but I have been one at least once. If people really want to associate with me, then I'll be pretty frank about who I am.

Honesty doesn't mean being an arsehole, but if you are an arsehole you probably should be honest about it. Some people are truly terrible people, I've met quite a few. I appreciate their honesty but I know for everyone who reveals such details many stay in hiding. It's the arseholes who stay hidden that are the bigger problems, like the ones who will read this comment or prowl online communities looking for leverage against us.