There seems to be an assumption that people (specifically women but same logic applies to men) can either be entrepreneurs or take care of young children, but not both.
I believe that startups can provide the flexible environment that bigger corporations really struggle with. Focus on results not attendence, telecommuting, flexible hours, etc. Maybe some VCs would struggle with the concept, but I know it can work because I've seen it done.
Would you know of resources that help share practical information on how to make that work? Often, simply don't know how and making some sweeping statement that "it can be done" is typically insufficient to help spread the practice.
(I know from first-hand experience as my attempts to tell people "X can be done" often fail to fill them in adequately on the how and this gets me lots of ire. I struggle with that. I am often shocked at what other people do not know that I take for granted they "should" know. I continue to try to work on that.)
There is tons of HR documents that I researched, but in the end I found that the most important way to be genuinely flexible and family-friendly is to listen to your team and then think creatively about finding ways to fit with their needs but also of course be part of a dynamic business. I think its more about attitude and approach than the specific way you do things.
Our business won two awards for our flexible practices and I believe that the reason we were ahead of the competition was that when the judges visited I was able to point to real results not just reams of HR policies and documents.
Founders and early staff really understand that they need to get a lot done and they should also be highly motivated to contribute to the business success. If the business takes the view that it can give people some flexibility in return then this can work out really well.
Some of the people who 'need' the flexibility should be founders or part of the key management team. In a startup you have tremendous control over the way your systems and business practices are set up - think about your family needs when doing this. Allow people to find what works for them. One of my cofounders found that she worked best after your children went to sleep and so we got a huge amount done between 9pm and midnight. We built all our systems so people could work from home and told our team that if their kids were sick they could work from home to look after them. That safety net makes a big difference.
I believe that startups can provide the flexible environment that bigger corporations really struggle with. Focus on results not attendence, telecommuting, flexible hours, etc. Maybe some VCs would struggle with the concept, but I know it can work because I've seen it done.