I didn't mean to reference the Holy Grail, sorry for the confusion. I added a second paragraph to clarify.

I meant that how you feel about being told you should feel shameful about being a male due to how other men sometimes act probably depends on how you react to being told that you're a sinful person who needs to redeem yourself because someone else ate an apple they weren't supposed to eat.

The "you" in my post weren't directed at him either, it was just a generic you. Damn, English is hard.